25 Signs You’re CAD User is lying

Most of us have dealt with Users who are not fully disclosing what may have caused that Standards violation. They are not forthcoming with information related to what happen before it “broke all by itself”.

Whether it’s your users, your boss, or your IT guy, it’s possible to determine if that person is lying to you just by carefully watching for clues.

According to Sheri and Bob Stritof, authors of “Your Guide to Marriage” on About.com, there are specific verbal and nonverbal clues we all give when we tell a fib. While few people would exhibit all of these, it’s the rare person who can tell a lie and not exhibit some of them!

So here is the list that the Stritof’s compiled. It can apply to your users also.

1. Touching the chin or rubbing the brow

2. Crossed arms or legs

3. Playing with hair

4. A line of perspiration on the brow if it isn’t a warm day

5. Saying “no” several times

6. Continually denying accusations

7. Being extremely defensive

8. Providing more information and specifics than necessary

9. Inconsistencies in what is being shared

10. Body language and facial expressions don’t match what is being said such as saying “no,” but nodding the head up and down

11. Smugness

12. Placing a barrier, such as a desk or chair, in front of self

13. Uncommon calmness

14. Unwillingness to stay focused during conversation

15. Being hesitant

16. Slouching posture

17. Rigidity or fidgeting

18. Differing behaviors; not acting in a usual fashion

19. Unnatural or limited arm and hand movements

20. Partial shrug

21. Lack of finger pointing

22. Unusual voice fluctuations, word choice, sentence structure

23. Stalling the conversation by repetitive use of pauses and comments like “um” or “you know”

24. Lack of use of contractions; prefers emphasizing “not” when talking

25. Avoidance of eye contact, eyes glancing to the right, staring past you, or turning away from you while talking

The Stritofs note that it is quite possible to mistake nervousness or distraction for lying or for misreading or mislabeling your spouse’s behaviors.